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To Him


As you all know, I struggle.

I struggle loving myself.

I struggle some days with just being happy.

I struggle thinking I’m not the greatest mother.

I struggle even in my own relationship.

See, Jon and I are perfect for each other, but we have our flaws.

I’m super hard-headed, he’s super hard-headed.

When I’m irritated I just shut down. Or say things I shouldn’t.

Believe it or not, we have come along way.

Screaming at each other, slamming doors.

So furious and hard-headed, we would refuse to let up for god knows why.

I’ve said many things to him that I feel bad about still to this day.

No one should ever say the things that I said to my own husband.

Somethings I don’t remember saying, but it still plays in his head.

I’m truly blessed by this man who stood by my side no matter what.

We all know why I was like this. I never dealt with my inner self at the time. I was just a ball full of hate with little love to give. Actually I blamed Jon for the longest time, but seriously what the hell did he do to me? Besides shut down when I was so mean to him. Makes sense right?

Yes I made it through all the bullshit my parents put me through, but never emotionally.

You get set in your ways no matter how fucked up the situation you were, or are currently in.

You see your mom go through relationship, after relationship, after relationship, after booty-call, and so on. You see men talk down on her and abuse her. She tries to fight back, hell you even stand up for her and scream at the assholes too. But it never worked. They always won.

That’s just it, when I feel unwanted or upset about the littlest problem, I get in fight mode.

Not literally fight. Just I go from 0-100, fast.

I recognized my wrongs and know that I’m not living in that life anymore. I don’t need to be in fight mode especially, with my husband.

I’m learning, we all are.

Our marriage isn’t perfect because a perfect marriage is next to impossible.

We work on us everyday. We are pretty great I would say.

My ways have changed a lot. We have grown this crazy, amazing, mutual, loving respect for each other. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

To my husband: I’m truly sorry for the mean things I have said to you over the years.

You are my world.

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I’m a mess, a loving, caring, working, try to put my makeup on everyday, always smiling or to exhausted to function, mess. But it’s okay I wouldn’t change it for the world. Follow my journey, you and I will figure things out together!

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    • I don’t completely regret but the things I said to my husband should’ve never been said.thank you for reading and thanks for keeping up with my posts 💚💚💚💚

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  1. Relationships are hard work but you recognize your flaws and are committed to being a better partner. This makes all the difference in the world and I’m sure you’ll do just fine. 🙂

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  2. Ruby, I must say – I bought my parents together and make them sit together.. and read this in front of them – And I “SAW” many things got clear.. The confusion was over !

    Thank you soo soo much !
    May God/Allah bless us with the best in this world and the hearafter ! and protect us from all the worldly evil !

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  3. Beautifully said…unfortunately I know exactly how you feel…I have had so much anger in my heart and go to fight mode faster than the drop of a dime. But as you said I am working on my flaws so that I can be a better person for my daughter and my future husband wherever he may be! Thanks for writing this.

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    • Well your definitely at a start especially since you recognized it and your trying to correct it! Good job though I was so blind to see that for the longest time 💛 thank you for reading !!

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